OMG! Your teen actually talks to you?

By Jay

Every people have to pass an adolescent period and have different experience to pass the period. Inside the difference, there might be the common element such as conversation with their parents. According to CNN article by Kelly Wallace, parents are also surprised with difficulty of talking to children, especially, first kid parents.

Parents also have hard time to talk with their children who are at an adolescent period. Its common situation that children shuts their bedroom door with saying “Mom, you don’t understand what you are saying!” Moreover, this is the sign of conversation has ended. Although, most parents have crisis with talking about sensitive topics; such as sex, drugs, alcohol and bullying. To solve this problem there are three things which parents must know about.

First of all, be honest to your children. Tell your children what parents feel about them and let them know parents also feel difficulty of talking to them honestly. Don’t try to hide parent’s emotion to children, let them know about parent’s emotion and also know parents have hard time with talking to them. Although, try to be in their side by thinking how you were at your children’s age. In this way, parents can understand children’s side better and it will help to create bond of sympathy easily..

Secondly, while parents are talking to their children, parent’s role is to listen not doing too much talk. To hear how child saying, parents have to be quite and listen to their child. As article says that ‘Don’t try to be star all the time! Don’t have to be smart all the time! Step back and let your children became the star at the conversation!’ Encourage children to talk about them and ask children do they need advice.

Lastly, the environment of conversation is also important. Children will have places which they like and the situations which they feel comfortable like preparing dinner and quick car trips. Find that places and situations! If parents make comfortable situation and no pressure environment, children will talk to parents more things in relaxed surroundings. First time is always difficult; therefore, after parents open children’s mind, it will be easier to talk with them.

Having conversation with parents is always hard situation for children. To solve this problem, the suggestion that article gave could be right way to try. However, it can’t be perfect solution. There might be different reason that children avoid to talk to their parents; although, children are not same and has all different personality. Therefore, I believe parents have to know about their children such as what they like, what do they mostly worry about and so on. If parents try consistently, children will come to parents to talk.

 

http://www.cnn.com/2014/02/19/living/talking-to-teens-communication-parents/index.html?hpt=li_c2