Material wealth and spiritual wealth in a marriage, which comes first?

By Jinny

The debate between material wealth and spiritual wealth is certainly a controversial topic for a long time. A beautiful girl who said on TV shows that she would like to cry in BMW, rather than to smile on a bicycle attracted controversy in China in 2013. As far as I can see, this is a personal choice based directly on individual willingness, because everyone has his own right to pursue his ideal marriage. Maybe everyone has different ideas about this topic. But for me, I would like to say that spiritual wealth comes first in a marriage.

In the first place, in my opinion, the base of the marriage is not material wealth but spiritual wealth. The spiritual wealth includes love, responsibility, mental coincidence and so on. We are attracted by a person first because of his personal trait rather than his material wealth. We may be attracted by his conversation, gesture, intelligence, and even his appearance, nothing of these is related with material wealth. I don’t think anyone could fell in love with another person just because the person wears beautiful clothes or holds a lot of money. So marriage firstly comes from spiritual wealth, and without spiritual wealth, marriage even does not exist.

In the second place, the couple who have spiritual wealth could pursue material wealth better. If the couple already have spiritual wealth, they won’t usually quarrel with each other. Because they have love and compatible goals for the future. They can understand each other, and devote themselves, their time and their energy to the marriage. This kind of marriage could exist long and be steady. The couple could have more energy to pursue material wealth.

Some people may say, if people could not be full-up, they are far from getting spiritual wealth. But in this topic, we are talking about the marriage, so if people could get married, there won’t be food issue for them. What they have to do is working hard for their family and their future. Although there my be some material issue in a marriage, such as education for children, medical expenses, and daily consumption, this problem could be solved as long as the couple work hard.

All in all, in my opinion, the spiritual wealth is essential for a long and steady marriage. The marriage which only has material wealth not spiritual wealth is a tragedy. Because we are human beings, we could not live without love, and life is not only about money.

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